Throwing a Majlis Pertunangan in Malaysia: A Guide for Malay Muslim Couples
Oh no, it’s bertunang season! If you’re in love and have plans to pop the question, you might be feeling overwhelmed about what to do. Preparation is key, not just for your future wedding, but for the engagement ceremony as well to ensure a smooth and successful event.
Fear not! Preparing for an engagement ceremony is much less daunting than preparing for a wedding. At Photobook Malaysia, we’ve put together our top 8 steps for you to prepare to guarantee a successful majlis pertunangan.
1. Date, Time & Location of Your Engagement Party
Celebrating your engagement is just as important as preparing for your wedding day. It’s the first step towards a lifetime of happiness and love. While planning a majlis bertunang may seem overwhelming but with the right time, date, and place, it can be a beautiful and intimate gathering for your loved ones. Imagine a cozy, charming event held in the comfort of your own home, surrounded by your closest family and friends. The beauty of an engagement ceremony is that it’s a more intimate and personal celebration, so there’s no need to go all out. Keep it simple and make it all about love and togetherness. Kick starting your own majlis bertunang is the perfect way to start your journey towards a blissful future together.
2. Mini Pelamin for Your Engagement Party
These days, even being engaged deserves a mini pelamin. But, it’s really up to you whether you want one or not for your engagement party. Actually, it’s not wrong to spend on a mini pelamin during the engagement ceremony because getting engaged is a historic moment to be immortalized. If you want to save money, you can opt for a DIY mini pelamin of your dreams. You can find personalized engagement party needs at Photobook Malaysia.
3. Decide on the Dulang Hantaran for Your Engagement Party
Preparing for your dulang hantaran is considered one of the mandatory things that need to be on your engagement party checklist! You have to ensure the amount of giving and exchanging the dulang hantaran is as agreed by both parties. Usually for a traditional Malay engagement ceremony, pihak perempuan will provide 7 dulang hantaran and the pihak lelaki will provide 5 dulang hantaran in return. Check out our selection of personalised engagement party gifts for ideas.
4. Theme and Colour of Your Engagement Party
The selection of theme colours for your engagement ceremony, mini pelamin and your engagement outfit is something that needs to be emphasized because it will have a positive impact on you as the engaged couple. It will also impact your attending guests. Leave a good lasting impression when deciding on the theme and colour of your majlis pertunangan. Don’t take this thing for granted if you don’t want your mood to be down when the event is not how you want it to be planned.
5. Discuss Wang Hantaran and Mas Kahwin Earlier On
The amount of remittance (Wang Hantaran) and dowry (Mas Kahwin) is different in each state in Malaysia. Often things related to wang hantaran are already discussed early by the soon-to-be-engaged couple before they are discussed again at the engagement ceremony. Try to avoid being over demanding on the value to avoid arguments between both families. Decide on the right value that both parties will agree to.
6. Book Your Makeup Artist and Engagement Party Photographer
The selection of your makeup artist (MUA) and photographer for your majlis pertunangan should be done correctly so that your make-up and gambar bertunang will be on point and beautiful to save in your engagement photo album. Hiring a professional makeup artist and photographer for the occasion will definitely be worth investing.
7. Book Your Engagement Party Catering Service
If you’re planning to throw an engagement party on a large scale, it is recommended to have a catering service. But, if it’s just a small tunang ceremony, it’s best for the host to cook the food for the guests themselves. It’s what the Malay people call as rewang. It depends on your available budget for the event. Try not to spend over budget like as if you’re planning for a wedding ceremony.
8. Select Your Wakil Keluarga for the Ceremony
Often times people overlook on who should be the wakil keluarga of each party during the tunang ceremony. Just so you know, the selection of a family representative is crucial! Choose someone who is experienced and is able to communicate well so the discussion between both families goes smoothly and is not boring.
Alright, now that you know what to do for your majlis pertunangan, we at Photobook Malaysia would like to wish you “Selamat Bertunang“. Look forward to exciting deals on personalised engagement party gifts, decorations, favours and stationeries for your engagement party event now!